Why dating is wrong
After mindlessly throwing myself back into the dating pool in the immediate aftermath of the breakup, I decided to stop after that date in late July 2015.
First dates left me feeling hollow, bored, and out of touch. Not because I was still bleeding from the months of emotional manipulation, but because I’d slowly cauterized myself to emotions at all.
That would be my last date before a self-imposed dating sabbatical. I had been like that for months, emotionally battered after my last relationship and closed off to connection.
Looking back one year later, my brain has blotted out much of the months I spent with my ex.
It’s easy to get sucked in by articulate charmers, especially if you have somewhat of a “fix it” or savior complex; Even after the breakup, you want to see true change in the person. When I’d kindly but firmly decline his invitation for dinner or coffee, as I always did, he’d find ways to press buttons that made me hurt all over again.
When he texted me the following day, I told him that, although he was lovely, it was probably best we went our separate ways.
But if fucking twenty friends are adamant on the fact that your relationship is just bad, it’s time to listen.
Sorry, but answers like, “Maybe…”, “Yes, but…”, “I’m not sure right now” and “I’d be if she…” don’t cut it.
If your partner does that to you as and when they like, it means they don’t respect you. Time to rethink that relationship because you may be dating the wrong person. It doesn’t matter if you have hard proof that they’re lying or not. When you think of your partner, you automatically feel angry and upset. But I think that, whoever in the relationship has gone to the extent of being physical, then you’re absolutely not with the right person.
I personally hate it when people are never on time. If your partner consistently makes you wait for an ungodly amount of time and they don’t even apologize for it, then it just goes to show they don’t respect your time. If you constantly have the feel that they’re making shit up to get their way, then they already failed as faithful partners for making you feel that way. You equate him or her to everything that annoys the fuck out of you. A girlfriend back then said something really mean that turned her face into a really ugly one, like even Swamp Thing looked better. Anything physical, big or small means they’re out to humiliate you; to bully you.