Typical dating time before engagement
Too many couples put tremendous energy and stress — even tears — into which type of faux parchment they should use for the programs so as to most effectively evoke a “Mediterranean” theme.Meanwhile, they’re neglecting their marriage before it even starts.This may seem like common sense, but trust me, it needs to be said.If each of you feels that you should talk to someone that you trust (of the same sex) about fears or concerns you may have about your sexual relationship — especially the wedding night itself — then do that as your wedding approaches.Adjust things like school, jobs, money, distance (in other words, logistics) to accommodate getting married.Don’t adjust the purpose and timing of marriage for a significant amount of time to accommodate the caprice of logistics or other earthly circumstances.
Here’s a quick review: First, look at the purpose that God has for your life (generally to “bring glory to God and enjoy Him forever”; more specifically how you see that playing out in your ministry and circumstances).
Will you be able to accomplish ministry (be it your original plan or one that you have caught a vision for through this person) more effectively together than apart? Look at the roles laid out there for men and women.
Do you desire to fill your role with the person in question specifically in mind?
What do you think your ministry will be, or what is it now as the Lord has placed you?
Will you be able, generally speaking, to serve God better together than apart?