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Though I tend to be someone who lives with her heart wide open and maintains an ever-hopeful spirit, no matter what life throws my way, I’ve tended to attract (and be attracted to) one very sad type of person: emotionally unavailable men.
They’re the type of guys who have a way of charming their way into your heart, your bedroom and your deepest fears, often taking advantage of your vulnerability and your desire to be a good partner.
They’ll convince you to place the blame on yourself. It’s how they’re trying to get out of talking about the real pink elephant in the room.
They’ll make you think you’re just expecting too much. Make you question if you see those bright red flags or if you’re imagining them. My very first adult relationship was with an emotionally unavailable man that I sincerely loved.
When you find the balance between the two of those, that’s when you have a good parent. The flirting is definitely there, and if that benefits me? If You Could Have 3 Things on the Island What Would They Be and Why?
The parents who are totally selfless and always give themselves without regard for how it’s impacting them, you lose yourself. I know you’ve dabbled in the modeling…Ken: A little bit. There’s a line, though: there’s the guy who flirts with the malicious intent to try to sway women, and then there’s the guy who flirts because it’s just his true nature.
But it was at a point in my life where I was invested in a couple of things down in Hawaii. Wigler: Now you’re going back out to a remote location. Wigler: You’re describing an amazing expression of empathy, an incredibly soulful human moment. So not only were they and their friends quite larger than me, but also older and more aggressive and more street smart. I was the compassionate kid who would catch the spider in a cup or in my bare hands and walk through the entire school until I got outside and past the playground and reached a tree that I knew would be safe. I remember sending a kid out of bounds while doing a backflip in the mid-air.
The hardest pill to swallow in these emotionally unavailable relationships is that you can give every ounce of yourself to someone, but if they aren’t willing to go on the ledge for you, it’ll never be the type of long lasting connection you desire.But the youngest member of the Gen X tribe brings lessons learned from his new experiences as a father into the game, as well as a lifetime of experience as an athlete and a younger brother looking to step out from under his siblings’ shadows. If we were playing cards, or we were playing Monopoly, or we were playing a game… You couldn’t get your ass whooped all the time and constantly get beat by your older brothers. What can I do here to possibly shift or bend something in my favor and not feel bad about it afterwards? We’ll play Tic Tac Toe, and I wonder if I should let her win on this one… Ken: Oh, no, fatherhood has opened me up emotionally more than I ever knew possible. you’re pinned under some fifteen foot waves and you think in that moment that this might be the one you don’t come up from.Click here to read Ken’s bio, and keep reading for our chat. Afterwards, when you’re sitting with all the money on the Monopoly table, and you go outside and you’re shooting baskets and you’re like, “By the way, here’s how I got all of that.” You do what you have to do to win a game, and if you have a competitive mind and a competitive edge like I do… But at the same time, I don’t think it’s healthy when a parent loses their whole personality for their child. You sound like you’re feeling pretty confident about this whole thing. That, on top of numerous other economic and mental and emotional battles that I’ve been through? It’s a generation of hard workers who were on the cusp of some incredible social, political and technological shifts.And all of the emotional availability I could dream of.Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?