Dating like me
When you start dating someone and haven't established exclusivity, says Santos, it's always important to measure signs that the other person is as on-board as you are.This could mean making regular conversation or establishing dates at a consistent frequency."Most people are courteous enough to do the absolute minimum on a date: finish whatever activity you're doing together and devote sufficient time out of respect for the other person," he says.So provided your date's not running out with an "emergency text from a roommate" after twenty minutes, it's an easy first sign that things are going well.But deeper than that, what you’re hoping is for me to confirm that I see things the way you want them to be – “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.” You ever play those games? It’s a sense that you don’t really believe that it could be true, but you really want it to be.A lot of the time, women fall into the trap of playing “emotional detective”: They dig into their memories and observations and go through EVERY insignificant detail to try and uncover some “hidden message” or “secret code” that the guy is sending.
So make sure you let the first part of what I said sink in.But you have to get good at believing in yourself and assuming that what you want to be true, is true.that he likes you will automatically cause you to act in a way that’s more… And as a result, there’s a really good chance that he’ll end up liking you back (in the end) if you assume that he does like you.So let’s assume that I’m right and you like him and you’d like it if he wants you back.I would even bet that you’re probably hoping I write back that he does like you. At the heart of all of these games and guesses is doubt.