Dating an abused woman
No matter the type of abuse, the abused person suffers damage to their self-esteem.Our abusers were critical of us, and undermined our self-confidence.The after effects of relationship abuse are long-lasting, and can make the ups and downs of love even rockier.
First, I knew I had to look deep into why my self-esteem was so low.
They show you who they are My ex revealed his true self early on with his actions. Whilst he told me he loved me one minute, he’d erupt in anger and disappear for days the next. That’s because I was projecting onto him who I hoped and wanted him to be. The man he was revealing to me, but whom I was choosing to be blind to. You are the one who is different to all the others (read: whores) who came before.
Or we’re having affairs they’ve imagined in their heads. It reminds me of how narcissists put you up on a Madonna-like pedestal.
Most people experience some insecurity when getting to know a potential partner.
Figuring out how to read another person’s signs and signals is part of the dating experience. What about when the person you’re dating has been in an abusive relationship?