But, it shouldn’t prevent you from finding happiness with a new person.In fact, experts say that getting divorced in your 40s, or 50s, can actually improve the quality of your future relationships.“I see one divorce as a good credential, actually,” says Fran Walfish, Ph.D., a relationship psychotherapist and consulting psychologist on “There shouldn’t be any shame in this.It can help you figure out what you really want in your next partner."Ready to meet people?
And while that’s totally natural, it can set you up to be victimized, Dr. One of the red flags that a date doesn’t have good intentions? It may sound counter-intuitive, but if they check every single box on your list, shower you with gifts, text or call all the time, push for quick commitment, make incredible promises, or want to be the only person in your life, you may be dealing with someone who is looking to control you.
But Walfish adds, “Happy relationships are based on having a lot in common, similar goals and shared experiences—things that a large age gap usually prevents.” “People will tell you who they really are if you listen carefully, so if someone shares something that seems a bit off, don't convince yourself otherwise,” says Linda F. In addition, listening is a proven way to make yourself more attractive to others, as they will feel special and heard.
That said, if they're not listening to you (or worse, not asking questions) that could be a cause for concern. From farmers to gluten-free folks (yes, really), if there’s a dating preference, there’s a dating site to fill that niche.
Before you start dating, here are some ground rules for finding a match worthy of you in the Tinder era.
"Lust is nature’s way of tricking us into attachment, so be very judicious about who you keep in your dating pool and who you 'throw back' to the pond," says Bela Gandhi, founder of Chicago-based matchmaking service Smart Dating Academy.