Boundaries in dating cloud townsend

A real and lasting relationship must be built upon friendship first. But here is the key: If all of those are not built upon lasting friendship and respect for the person’s character, something is wrong.That is the one true measure of a friend, a person with whom you like to spend time, having no regard to how you are spending it. And that, long-term, requires character, and in the deepest of friendships, shared values as well.You would want your best friends to be honest, faithful, deep, spiritual, responsible, connecting, growing, loving, and the like.Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics.“Dating right side up,” an exhortation to fit our dating life into our spiritual life (not vice versa) was another highlight for me.I’d recommend to Christians who are actively dating, grappling with what they believe about dating, or have had dating issues in the past.

After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?As one friend of mine said about picking her mate: “He was someone I knew I could grow old with. And he made me laugh.” She also shared deep spiritual values and other commonalties with him as well, as she would with any other friend. The best boundary that you can have in your dating life is to begin every relationship with an eye toward friendship. Keep your boundaries, physically, emotionally, and otherwise. Spend time getting to know someone in nonromantic ways.For example: If you do not allow yourself to rush into falling for someone that you have not become friends with first, you will be more sure when you let yourself go to the next step. Only believe your experience of getting to know a person and seeing if you can share at a deep level.by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, I jumped at the opportunity, hoping to be both challenged and affirmed. And I finished the book with confirmation that I’m on the right track.After all, I’m always game to glean additional information about healthy dating relationships for my future. But, to be honest, I also struggled to connect at times. I even wanted to throw the book out the window at one point, but hunkered down and kept on reading. Here’s the deal: Dating is a topic on which I have a whole lot of head knowledge, but no real practical experience.

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